Death seems to be a theme at the moment; I have spoken to five people in the last 2-3 weeks who have all lost a loved one: father, mother, brother and sister.

Grief is the emotional level that is stirred up when we lose someone we care about. And it is not limited to people, it could be the loss (end) of a relationship, the loss of a thing like pets, job, house, a favoured item, etc.

I was taught many years ago that when fully felt grief can only last for a week or so. Of course I didn’t believe that. If that was true, why were so many people grieving years after losing someone?

I found this out for myself when my father died of a massive heart attack; one day he was in my life, the next he was gone. And I was the only one not present when it happened. I found out that I could let go of most of the grief in the week between his death and funeral. I dealt with the grief, but I haven’t forgotten him. If anything I have more memories available now, of all the great times we had when he was alive, and I can remember him with fondness rather than grief. I was so glad I had learned how to let go of debilitating feelings so they don’t run my life.

We live in a society that is afraid of feeling the so called ‘negative’ feelings like grief, fear and anger. We learn to stuff them down, suppress them, until it all gets too much and then we burst them out (express them) because we can no longer bear the feeling. Of course, we hate showing them even more than we like feeling them and society teaches us it’s bad to show your feelings, so we try to stuff them down again. Until they get too much…

Ultimately, grief is associated with the loss, or perceived loss of someone or something (it doesn’t have to be real).

It can be to do with:

• the past  – something that has already happened
• the present – something that is happening now
• the future – something we are afraid will happen
• Do you see the endless pattern?

There is no way out, no end to them.

Until you learn to SOAR™ with your feelings.

Now you can let go of them safely, without having to feel them in their full intensity, without having to stuff them down or show them to others when it all gets too much.

When you learn how to approach your feelings with intelligence, they don’t run your life for you anymore.

• Who or what are you grieving over?
• Who or what are you afraid of?
• Who or what are you angry over?

You don’t have to let these debilitating feelings run your life for you anymore.

Go on then, learn to SOAR™.

P.S. The next course you can learn to SOAR™ on is on 1^st May. Follow this link to learn more and join me at EMOTIONAL POWER LIVE!