How to Control Your Weather

It’s a glorious day! The temperature is 22 centigrade and I’m sitting in my garden writing this. Summer has finally arrived for most of us.

My garden on a glorius day


I spent this morning with Vinay Parmar, my friend and co-conspirator in creating a great life. We sat outside a Costa, plotted our next life enhancement strategies and watched the world go by. It is interesting people watching: the usual glum expressions were replaced with cheery smiles and even the occasional ‘hello’.

All because the sun is shining and it’s warm?

How often do we make ourselves to the be the hostage of circumstances we can’t control (like the weather). I remember being like this before I came across the tools I now teach others. My moods would be completely dependent on what was happening in my life in areas I had no control over. And yet I would worry, fret and drive myself crazy trying to change those very things that I had no control over!

Vinay reminded me of when he attended his first seminar with me and picking up a concept that has helped him change his life – the concept of Total Responsibility for all that occurs in your life. Now this doesn’t mean trying to control the things you can’t, but accepting them and then influencing the things you CAN control.

What we tend to do is to forget this and get caught up in doing things that make little or no difference.

How does this tie in to the weather? We let our moods be dictated by what the weather is doing, when actually we have total control over how we react to it. We can choose to be miserable or happy regardless of the weather. And choosing to be happy makes us more productive in all that we do.

Instead of wanting to control the weather outside you, learn to control the eco-system INSIDE of you – and you will never again be troubled by the weather outside. You might even smile and say ‘hello’ to me as you pass me on the pavement on a rainy day!

Go on then, let the sun out!

What does it take to become an overnight success?

We all strive for success and have many disappointments along the way. Sometime the disappointment is so strong that we give up and turn away from our dream.

When we first start out on this journey of becoming a success – whatever success means to you – it is tempting to see others who have already achieved what we desire to, and think that it was easy for them. The reality is that very few people become an overnight success or sensation.

I was reminded of this when I met my friend Vinay Parmar ( We have known each other for years and both helped each other many times, often reminding each other not to give up, that there is light at the end of the dark times.

Vinay had his story featured in the Guardian newspaper a week ago. It was a big write up and told people of a part of his journey. Today, the Mirror newspaper has featured him after picking up on the Guardian article. He also has other papers, national magazines and national TV chasing him for an interview.

It is tempting to look at him from the outside and see it as a lucky break and wish we could have the same. It is in a way making him an overnight success. What people don’t see (except those that have known him) is that the night lasted many years: that there were many moments of real fear, moments of doubt that could have turned into despair and giving up.

Are you experiencing any of these? If so, remember, success is a journey with many obstacles along the way. Obstacles to:

  • test your commitment and belief,
  • make you a stronger person,
  • teach you the skills you need in order to deal with the success when it arrives.

There is a light at the end of the darkness. Sometimes you may not be able to see very far. If you travel by car on a road at night without streetlights, you can only see what is in the beam of the car’s headlights, but you still head toward your journey’s end. So it is with life. You only need to see what’s immediately in front of you, and trust that you will see the next step when you have moved forward a step.

So, remember to keep heading in the direction of your dreams even if you can’t see far ahead, and success will creep up on you in the quietest of hours, when you least expect it.

Go on then, make it through the night.