Garlic shown to reduce Emotional Intelligence

garlicWoman: Eeugh! You stink of garlic

Man: that’s usually what happens when you eat pieces of garlic

Woman: (looking shocked) you ate it? You’re not supposed to eat it. You pick it out and leave it.

Man: why did you put it in then?

Woman: for the flavour

Man: Oh, I see.

Woman shakes her head in bewilderment.

 

Emotions are like garlic: they add flavour to your experience of life. Just don’t stuff them down, or you’ll stink of them.

Go on, admit it. Women are right… Well, some of the time.

Are you a medal winner or someone who takes part just to be counted?

2012-olympic-medals-all3As the London 2012 Olympics draws to an end, Team GB have won more Gold Medals than at any other Olympics for over 100 years.

There was great jubilation, and also the occasional disappointment, amongst all the athletes going for gold for Team GB. There were tears of happiness, of finally seeing a dream come true: and there were tears of disappointment, of seeing a dream shattered.

There were many reasons that the athletes had for competing. At the top of the tree, the medal winners:
On Thursday evening, there was Usain Bolt, achieving the double of successfully defending both his 100m and 200m victories from the Beijing 2008 Olympics. He did it, in his own words, to be a ‘legend’.
An hour before that, almost forgotten by the time of Usain Bolt’s triumph, was the great victory of David Rudisha. In the process of winning the Gold Medal, he also broke the 800m World Record and led EVERY other runner in that final to set either a personal best or a national record for the country they represented. It was described by many as the best 800m race ever run. Patrick Rudisha did it to make his father (an athlete in the 1968 Olympics), and Sebastian Coe (who had encouraged him in his endeavour) proud.
Two great athletes, two very different reasons for competing to win.

Then, at the other end of the scale were the athletes, who had no chance of winning a medal.
Wojdan Shaherkani  took part in the women’s Judo event, whilst her compatriot, Sarah Attar, took part in the women’s 800m race. Wojdan Shaherkani  lasted about a minute in her one and only bout in Judo, whilst Sarah Attar came last in her race. Neither stood a chance of winning a medal or competed to win, but just to take part – they were the first women ever allowed by Saudi Arabia to compete in the Olympics. They both endured (and continue to endure) severe criticism from many people within their own country just for taking part.

Who are the greater Olympians, the ‘winners’ or the ‘losers’. Both, for different reasons, all of which are valid. Why do you take part in the Olympics of life? Do you take part to become a legend, for pride, for the right to compete, or for another equally worthy reason?

I am not bound to win, but I am bound to be true.
I am not bound to succeed, but I am bound to live by the light that I have.
I must stand with anybody that stands right, and part with him when he goes wrong.

Abraham Lincoln, 16th U.S. President

Whatever your reason, you are worthy.

Go on, it’s never too late to win.

How to Control Your Weather

It’s a glorious day! The temperature is 22 centigrade and I’m sitting in my garden writing this. Summer has finally arrived for most of us.

My garden on a glorius day

 

I spent this morning with Vinay Parmar, my friend and co-conspirator in creating a great life. We sat outside a Costa, plotted our next life enhancement strategies and watched the world go by. It is interesting people watching: the usual glum expressions were replaced with cheery smiles and even the occasional ‘hello’.

All because the sun is shining and it’s warm?

How often do we make ourselves to the be the hostage of circumstances we can’t control (like the weather). I remember being like this before I came across the tools I now teach others. My moods would be completely dependent on what was happening in my life in areas I had no control over. And yet I would worry, fret and drive myself crazy trying to change those very things that I had no control over!

Vinay reminded me of when he attended his first seminar with me and picking up a concept that has helped him change his life – the concept of Total Responsibility for all that occurs in your life. Now this doesn’t mean trying to control the things you can’t, but accepting them and then influencing the things you CAN control.

What we tend to do is to forget this and get caught up in doing things that make little or no difference.

How does this tie in to the weather? We let our moods be dictated by what the weather is doing, when actually we have total control over how we react to it. We can choose to be miserable or happy regardless of the weather. And choosing to be happy makes us more productive in all that we do.

Instead of wanting to control the weather outside you, learn to control the eco-system INSIDE of you – and you will never again be troubled by the weather outside. You might even smile and say ‘hello’ to me as you pass me on the pavement on a rainy day!

Go on then, let the sun out!

The Power of a Decision

Today, I was asked the question, ‘does it really work?’ in relation to a strategy I use in my business to attract the right kinds of clients for me.

This led me to think about achieving results.

We usually start out with the best of intentions when we ‘decide’ to do something. We make a decision, commit to it, and then begin to take action toward its accomplishment. This is usually when the fun start – the mind kicks in with its ‘yap yap yap’ dialogue of uncertainty and doubt, and we very quickly begin to doubt our decision.

The problem lies in two things:

1)      We rarely make a clear decision in the first place. The word ‘decide’ from its Latin root means to cut off all other possibilities. This means that we will not accept anything less than the thing we decide to have. In reality, we rarely do this – we are willing to settle for less. Or more likely, we are open to changing our minds and go back on the decision as soon as the going gets tough.

2)      We rarely commit to keep going until we achieve our outcome. We feel great when making a decision, but that feeling does not last. Eventually, when it has worn off, we don’t feel so great and our commitment, if there was any in the first place, start to wane. This is not commitment.

True commitment is doing the thing you said you would do, long after the mood you said it in has left you.

How often do you really commit to something and see it to its end?

To really achieve your big goals you must:

1)      Make a LASTING decision

2)      Commit to yourself and your abilities to accomplish your goal.

“An invincible determination can accomplish almost anything, and in this lies the great distinction between great men and little men.”

Dr. Thomas Fuller (1608-1661);

clergyman, writer

 

Go on then, make a decision.

Selfless Contribution

Back home after an amazing two and a half days on the crew team for Joanna Martin’s Presentation Secrets seminars. It was a powerful learning environment, seeing things from the ‘other’ side and I’ve brought back loads of ideas to implement into my own events.
They were long days (7am – 9pm) for the crew with only 3 breaks of 10-20 minutes (much longer for the delegates!).
They were physically demanding days, with most of us shattered by the end of each day.
We had to provide for our own meals, accommodation and transport, and we didn’t get paid anything.
We were taught how to work as a team and approach the whole event from a place of selfless contribution.

And I would do it again any time I get the chance. Why?
Because I learned so much from their professionalism and the way they looked after us and taught us what we needed to do to make it a great experience for each delegate.
I haven’t crewed for anyone for many years and it reminded me of my early days when I crewed for lots of great trainers at every opportunity I got (and probably spent a fortune in doing so!)

What I got back far exceeded any time and money investment I made and I look forward to doing it again soon, to become even better at delivering powerful and transformational events of my own.
I learned that the whole organisation has a culture of selfless contribution – and that is why they are so successful at what they do. Beyond the business buiding, they really do care for their delegates.

To any of you, who speak (or need to speak) to groups as part of your career, I really cannot recommend this event highly enough. This is the last time these events will be delivered, before Joanna Martin moves on to starting a family and building the next big work project in her life.
The first three of the four scheduled events are already sold out and the fourth is more than 3/4 full now. An extra and final date has been scheduled for Friday, June 8th. Do what you have to do to get to one of them! With a highly discounted rate and a money back guarantee, what do you have to lose?

Here’s the link for more info: http://bit.ly/AtBJPA.

I hope to see you there.

Go on then, give to yourself.