Your success and the role of mentors

simon chaplinI’ve just had the most amazing call with my business mentor, Simon Chaplin (www.SocksUpSimon.com) – but then every call with him is like that at some level.

I don’t know about you, but now that the Olympics and my holidays are over, I’ve been feeling a little bit lost: directionless, unmotivated, wondering if I’m going in the right direction, worried about business cashflow, and a whole load more – all very low energy thoughts and emotions. All that changed after my call with Simon this morning.

It doesn’t matter how good you are at something, and I know I’m very good at helping people have a higher level of Emotional Intelligence, we all need outside input from other people to help us get a sense of perspective and help us clarify our thinking – right now I have mentors/coaches to help me with my business, my diet and nutrition, and my physical health. I’m fortunate that I learned early on to surround myself with great coaches and mentors in different fields. After all, if Usain Bolt, Jessica Ennis, Mo Farah, and a whole host of other Olympians/ Para-olympians have coaches and mentors, don’t we ordinary mortals need them even more? If the best in the field can perform even better with the help of their coaches/mentors, then how much can you improve what you do with the right people helping you? The right people helping you are worth far more than the fee you may exchange with them for their expertise.

I call my team of experts my Power Team, because they help me become more powerful at what I do.

Who are the people in your Power Team? Do you have any at all? If not, how much are you being held back in business and in life because you only learn from your own mistakes? A Power Team of experts around you will save you years of struggle, disappointment and despair. How many years do you have to waste? If you don’t have anyone yet and are thinking ‘I can’t afford to have one’, my question is can you really afford NOT to have one? You don’t need to have a team right off the bat, just start with one as I did, it really is so much better than none.

People often wonder what the difference is between a coach and a mentor. There are official definitions, I prefer this informal one: a coach is someone who has the skills to help you become better at what you do but not necessarily have excelled at that thing themselves; a mentor is someone who has already achieved what you want to achieve and can guide you from personal experience.

So why would someone have a coach if the coach hasn’t already done what they are helping you to do? Let’s use one of the athletes as an example:

Usain Bolt has several coaches, for the physical aspect of sprinting and for the mental aspect as well. They help him with technique and strategy. They haven’t broken the 100m world record themselves, but they can still help him, as they have proven. Usain is at the top of his field, but he could have someone as a mentor who has broken a world record in another athletics discipline. In the case of Yohan Blake, silver medallist in the Olympic 100m final, he could have Usain Bolt as his mentor because Usain has ‘been there and done it’.

I personally believe both a coach and a mentor have a role to play in your success. Who will you start with in your Power Team?

If you would like to explore how I may help you, contact me through the website at http://sanjayshah.tv/contact-us/ .

 

Go on, build a team.

 

PS. My next Emotional Power Live course is on Saturday 29 September in Birmingham. www.sanjayshah.tv/events . The first 10 tickets are available at a 50% discount, so hurry and book before you miss out on those!

Are you a medal winner or someone who takes part just to be counted?

2012-olympic-medals-all3As the London 2012 Olympics draws to an end, Team GB have won more Gold Medals than at any other Olympics for over 100 years.

There was great jubilation, and also the occasional disappointment, amongst all the athletes going for gold for Team GB. There were tears of happiness, of finally seeing a dream come true: and there were tears of disappointment, of seeing a dream shattered.

There were many reasons that the athletes had for competing. At the top of the tree, the medal winners:
On Thursday evening, there was Usain Bolt, achieving the double of successfully defending both his 100m and 200m victories from the Beijing 2008 Olympics. He did it, in his own words, to be a ‘legend’.
An hour before that, almost forgotten by the time of Usain Bolt’s triumph, was the great victory of David Rudisha. In the process of winning the Gold Medal, he also broke the 800m World Record and led EVERY other runner in that final to set either a personal best or a national record for the country they represented. It was described by many as the best 800m race ever run. Patrick Rudisha did it to make his father (an athlete in the 1968 Olympics), and Sebastian Coe (who had encouraged him in his endeavour) proud.
Two great athletes, two very different reasons for competing to win.

Then, at the other end of the scale were the athletes, who had no chance of winning a medal.
Wojdan Shaherkani  took part in the women’s Judo event, whilst her compatriot, Sarah Attar, took part in the women’s 800m race. Wojdan Shaherkani  lasted about a minute in her one and only bout in Judo, whilst Sarah Attar came last in her race. Neither stood a chance of winning a medal or competed to win, but just to take part – they were the first women ever allowed by Saudi Arabia to compete in the Olympics. They both endured (and continue to endure) severe criticism from many people within their own country just for taking part.

Who are the greater Olympians, the ‘winners’ or the ‘losers’. Both, for different reasons, all of which are valid. Why do you take part in the Olympics of life? Do you take part to become a legend, for pride, for the right to compete, or for another equally worthy reason?

I am not bound to win, but I am bound to be true.
I am not bound to succeed, but I am bound to live by the light that I have.
I must stand with anybody that stands right, and part with him when he goes wrong.

Abraham Lincoln, 16th U.S. President

Whatever your reason, you are worthy.

Go on, it’s never too late to win.

The Power of a Decision

Today, I was asked the question, ‘does it really work?’ in relation to a strategy I use in my business to attract the right kinds of clients for me.

This led me to think about achieving results.

We usually start out with the best of intentions when we ‘decide’ to do something. We make a decision, commit to it, and then begin to take action toward its accomplishment. This is usually when the fun start – the mind kicks in with its ‘yap yap yap’ dialogue of uncertainty and doubt, and we very quickly begin to doubt our decision.

The problem lies in two things:

1)      We rarely make a clear decision in the first place. The word ‘decide’ from its Latin root means to cut off all other possibilities. This means that we will not accept anything less than the thing we decide to have. In reality, we rarely do this – we are willing to settle for less. Or more likely, we are open to changing our minds and go back on the decision as soon as the going gets tough.

2)      We rarely commit to keep going until we achieve our outcome. We feel great when making a decision, but that feeling does not last. Eventually, when it has worn off, we don’t feel so great and our commitment, if there was any in the first place, start to wane. This is not commitment.

True commitment is doing the thing you said you would do, long after the mood you said it in has left you.

How often do you really commit to something and see it to its end?

To really achieve your big goals you must:

1)      Make a LASTING decision

2)      Commit to yourself and your abilities to accomplish your goal.

“An invincible determination can accomplish almost anything, and in this lies the great distinction between great men and little men.”

Dr. Thomas Fuller (1608-1661);

clergyman, writer

 

Go on then, make a decision.

Selfless Contribution

Back home after an amazing two and a half days on the crew team for Joanna Martin’s Presentation Secrets seminars. It was a powerful learning environment, seeing things from the ‘other’ side and I’ve brought back loads of ideas to implement into my own events.
They were long days (7am – 9pm) for the crew with only 3 breaks of 10-20 minutes (much longer for the delegates!).
They were physically demanding days, with most of us shattered by the end of each day.
We had to provide for our own meals, accommodation and transport, and we didn’t get paid anything.
We were taught how to work as a team and approach the whole event from a place of selfless contribution.

And I would do it again any time I get the chance. Why?
Because I learned so much from their professionalism and the way they looked after us and taught us what we needed to do to make it a great experience for each delegate.
I haven’t crewed for anyone for many years and it reminded me of my early days when I crewed for lots of great trainers at every opportunity I got (and probably spent a fortune in doing so!)

What I got back far exceeded any time and money investment I made and I look forward to doing it again soon, to become even better at delivering powerful and transformational events of my own.
I learned that the whole organisation has a culture of selfless contribution – and that is why they are so successful at what they do. Beyond the business buiding, they really do care for their delegates.

To any of you, who speak (or need to speak) to groups as part of your career, I really cannot recommend this event highly enough. This is the last time these events will be delivered, before Joanna Martin moves on to starting a family and building the next big work project in her life.
The first three of the four scheduled events are already sold out and the fourth is more than 3/4 full now. An extra and final date has been scheduled for Friday, June 8th. Do what you have to do to get to one of them! With a highly discounted rate and a money back guarantee, what do you have to lose?

Here’s the link for more info: http://bit.ly/AtBJPA.

I hope to see you there.

Go on then, give to yourself.

 

Are you a loser in the game of life?

How often do you fight things you don’t like?

Things people say.
Things people do.
Things that happen in the world.

What do you do when someone is having a go at you, for not being the person they would like you to be? For not being good enough. For being a lousy father/mother/parent/son/daughter/etc.

What do you do when life throws a curve ball at you? When that thing that was a certainty goes pear shaped.

All of these things stir up negative, low energy feelings in you; feelings which require more energy to keep in place than they give to you to use to change the situation.

Positive, high energy feelings give you more energy than you actually need to take action, to change a situation.

Negative feelings lead to a net loss of energy.
Positive feelings lead to a net gain of energy.

Which would you rather have: a net gain or a net loss?

Whenever you hang on to the negative feelings, you give life to the person/thing/situation that you don’t like. That’s why there is a net loss of energy.
Whenever you choose to experience positive feelings, you gain energy to take higher quality actions. That’s why you feel energised and are more likely to achieve your results.

Stop being a loser. Become a gainer.
You do want more energy to achieve the things you want in life, don’t you?

Go on then, make success easier today!