Selfless Contribution

Back home after an amazing two and a half days on the crew team for Joanna Martin’s Presentation Secrets seminars. It was a powerful learning environment, seeing things from the ‘other’ side and I’ve brought back loads of ideas to implement into my own events.
They were long days (7am – 9pm) for the crew with only 3 breaks of 10-20 minutes (much longer for the delegates!).
They were physically demanding days, with most of us shattered by the end of each day.
We had to provide for our own meals, accommodation and transport, and we didn’t get paid anything.
We were taught how to work as a team and approach the whole event from a place of selfless contribution.

And I would do it again any time I get the chance. Why?
Because I learned so much from their professionalism and the way they looked after us and taught us what we needed to do to make it a great experience for each delegate.
I haven’t crewed for anyone for many years and it reminded me of my early days when I crewed for lots of great trainers at every opportunity I got (and probably spent a fortune in doing so!)

What I got back far exceeded any time and money investment I made and I look forward to doing it again soon, to become even better at delivering powerful and transformational events of my own.
I learned that the whole organisation has a culture of selfless contribution – and that is why they are so successful at what they do. Beyond the business buiding, they really do care for their delegates.

To any of you, who speak (or need to speak) to groups as part of your career, I really cannot recommend this event highly enough. This is the last time these events will be delivered, before Joanna Martin moves on to starting a family and building the next big work project in her life.
The first three of the four scheduled events are already sold out and the fourth is more than 3/4 full now. An extra and final date has been scheduled for Friday, June 8th. Do what you have to do to get to one of them! With a highly discounted rate and a money back guarantee, what do you have to lose?

Here’s the link for more info: http://bit.ly/AtBJPA.

I hope to see you there.

Go on then, give to yourself.

 

Do you catastrophise?

These last few days have been ‘odd’ for me.
I realised that I was grieving, but couldn’t think of why I was doing that. There had been no deaths in my circle of friends and family and yet, there was a sense of loss in me.

It took a while for me to realise what it was all about.
Before I could do that, I had to just let it be. Our conditioned reaction is to get into ‘doing’ something, actually anything, to avoid feeling bad. Sometimes, the opposite is true and we just need to let things be.

Allowing to let it be and getting on with my day meant that I wasn’t fighting the feeling any more. Of course, it wasn’t pleasant, but I could just observe it. After a while I started to get a sense of what it was about.

I was grieving for a future loss. The thing I was grieving for hadn’t even happened yet – and perhaps never will. Yet there was still a sense of loss being created because of the thoughts in my head that I was coming to the end of a (working) relationship.

This got me to wondering how many other times I have suffered over something that has not happened, but I think it may happen – and so create the feelings. In effect I was suffering because of a picture of loss that I had in my mind. Crazily, it was a picture I had myself created, and could also change!

We are all creators of our feelings, and we can create the good feelings just as easily as the ‘bad’ feelings by the picture we hold in mind. We have forgotten this basic truth and so end up creating suffering when we could be creating pleasing feelings.

Where in your life do you do this? Where are you suffering BEFORE something has happened, even when there is a chance that it may NEVER happen! And even if the worst were to happen, the depth of your suffering is entirely within your control. Perhaps, instead of being taught to catastrophise everything, we should be looking at the positive in everything, if only to reduce and, perhaps, even eliminate suffering. Then again, in today’s society, someone may accuse you of holding onto false hope! On the whole, people are happy with seeing you suffer rather than be happy – it makes for better news.

Go on then, if you’re going to catastrophise, at least enjoy it.

 

How to carry on when there is no end in sight

We have emotional peaks and emotional troughs. It is a natural part of living that we experience these highs and lows. I don’t know about you but I have often found myself to be consumed by the feelings I experience during the lows of life. So much so that nothing else seems to exist , or even matter,  when in these depths of pain and/despair.

It is very easy to lose our grip on reality at these times of crises. We can’t ‘see the wood for the trees’ and lose hope of a resolution to the crisis very quickly.

I am reminded of a passage in the classic children’s book, The Hobbit, by J.R.R. Tolkien. The main character, Bilbo Baggins, and his companions are lost in a forest and becoming desperate as there seems to be no end to the trees. One of the companions climbs to the top of a tall tree to see if he can see which way they should travel to escape the forest. On reaching the top of the tree, all he can see all around is an endless sea of trees and relays this to the others at the foot of the tree. They all quickly lose hope of escape. What none of them know is that they are at the bottom of a shallow valley and that the forest ends just beyond the lip of the valley.

I liken our situations to this. At the depths of our pain and sorrows, we are in the depths of an emotional valley, and no matter how high the tree we climb, we cannot see beyond the lip of the valley. All we can do at this point is to tighten our belts and carry on walking. Just because you can’t see it doesn’t mean there is no end in sight. Keep on walking.

“Over every mountain there is a path, although it may not be seen from the valley.”

James Rogers (1875-1961)

Go on then, keep on walking.

 

Skinny, Rich and Happy

“If information alone changed people’s lives, everybody would be skinny, rich and happy!”
 Les Brown 

It’s true isn’t it, and we all know it.

So why do you constantly seek more information in order to become successful at something?
There is nothing wrong with information per se; it’s just not the only important factor in attaining success in any field.

Many years ago, when I first started to look at success and why I wasn’t as successful as I wanted to be, knew I ought to be and deserved to be, I got into the habit of seeking the best of the best in any field. I went to every course I could find that would give me the missing ingredient, the secret that successful people had that I obviously didn’t. If only I knew more, then I would be able to find out how to be successful! The reality was, more knowledge didn’t make me more successful

It took a while before I realised that there was more to success than knowing what to do (I.e knowledge). I realised I had to do what I knew. And later on I learned I only had to do a little of what I knew, but with consistency and commitment. The little is the 20% of the knowledge that makes a difference to me and my business. The 80% can be put to one side.

Are you seeking more knowledge?
Or are you applying what you already know?

Remember, you don’t need to apply it all.
But you do need to apply it consistently and with commitment.

And you too can be skinny, rich and happy.

Go on then, make success easier today!