Garlic shown to reduce Emotional Intelligence

garlicWoman: Eeugh! You stink of garlic

Man: that’s usually what happens when you eat pieces of garlic

Woman: (looking shocked) you ate it? You’re not supposed to eat it. You pick it out and leave it.

Man: why did you put it in then?

Woman: for the flavour

Man: Oh, I see.

Woman shakes her head in bewilderment.

 

Emotions are like garlic: they add flavour to your experience of life. Just don’t stuff them down, or you’ll stink of them.

Go on, admit it. Women are right… Well, some of the time.

Your success and the role of mentors

simon chaplinI’ve just had the most amazing call with my business mentor, Simon Chaplin (www.SocksUpSimon.com) – but then every call with him is like that at some level.

I don’t know about you, but now that the Olympics and my holidays are over, I’ve been feeling a little bit lost: directionless, unmotivated, wondering if I’m going in the right direction, worried about business cashflow, and a whole load more – all very low energy thoughts and emotions. All that changed after my call with Simon this morning.

It doesn’t matter how good you are at something, and I know I’m very good at helping people have a higher level of Emotional Intelligence, we all need outside input from other people to help us get a sense of perspective and help us clarify our thinking – right now I have mentors/coaches to help me with my business, my diet and nutrition, and my physical health. I’m fortunate that I learned early on to surround myself with great coaches and mentors in different fields. After all, if Usain Bolt, Jessica Ennis, Mo Farah, and a whole host of other Olympians/ Para-olympians have coaches and mentors, don’t we ordinary mortals need them even more? If the best in the field can perform even better with the help of their coaches/mentors, then how much can you improve what you do with the right people helping you? The right people helping you are worth far more than the fee you may exchange with them for their expertise.

I call my team of experts my Power Team, because they help me become more powerful at what I do.

Who are the people in your Power Team? Do you have any at all? If not, how much are you being held back in business and in life because you only learn from your own mistakes? A Power Team of experts around you will save you years of struggle, disappointment and despair. How many years do you have to waste? If you don’t have anyone yet and are thinking ‘I can’t afford to have one’, my question is can you really afford NOT to have one? You don’t need to have a team right off the bat, just start with one as I did, it really is so much better than none.

People often wonder what the difference is between a coach and a mentor. There are official definitions, I prefer this informal one: a coach is someone who has the skills to help you become better at what you do but not necessarily have excelled at that thing themselves; a mentor is someone who has already achieved what you want to achieve and can guide you from personal experience.

So why would someone have a coach if the coach hasn’t already done what they are helping you to do? Let’s use one of the athletes as an example:

Usain Bolt has several coaches, for the physical aspect of sprinting and for the mental aspect as well. They help him with technique and strategy. They haven’t broken the 100m world record themselves, but they can still help him, as they have proven. Usain is at the top of his field, but he could have someone as a mentor who has broken a world record in another athletics discipline. In the case of Yohan Blake, silver medallist in the Olympic 100m final, he could have Usain Bolt as his mentor because Usain has ‘been there and done it’.

I personally believe both a coach and a mentor have a role to play in your success. Who will you start with in your Power Team?

If you would like to explore how I may help you, contact me through the website at http://sanjayshah.tv/contact-us/ .

 

Go on, build a team.

 

PS. My next Emotional Power Live course is on Saturday 29 September in Birmingham. www.sanjayshah.tv/events . The first 10 tickets are available at a 50% discount, so hurry and book before you miss out on those!

Congratulations, it’s your Jubilee!

So it’s the Jubilee celebrations in the UK this weekend.
The nation staged one of its biggest displays of royal pomp and ceremony, and as with other such events in the past, it was all carried out with great precision.
I looked up the word Jubilee and its meaning and this is what I found:

  1.  A time or season for rejoicing
  2. A special anniversary, esp a 25th or 50th one
  3. RC Church a specially appointed period, now ordinarily every 25th year, in which special indulgences are granted
  4. Old Testament a year that was to be observed every 50th year, during which Hebrew slaves were to be liberated, alienated property was to be restored, etc
  5. A less common word for jubilation

I had always regarded a jubilee event as one holding a special significance, e.g.  a silver jubilee.
The first definition has no such mention; it is just a time for celebration. I did a little more digging around and came across the following quote:

“Life is one long jubilee.”              – Ira Gershwin

 

How often do we hold back on celebrations, waiting for a special moment before we rejoice? Perhaps we need to be celebrating our lives ALL of the time?
Life has good times and not so good times. Regardless of which time we are in, there is a wonder to living that is easily forgotten in the act of making a living. In these times of cutbacks on spending, the government speaking about austerity, and world financial markets in turmoil, we can forget the simple pleasures that do not require much except our attention. We get so caught up in making a living that we actually forget to just live, and to celebrate.

 

Go on then, take a break. Celebrate. You’re alive.


 

How to Control Your Weather

It’s a glorious day! The temperature is 22 centigrade and I’m sitting in my garden writing this. Summer has finally arrived for most of us.

My garden on a glorius day

 

I spent this morning with Vinay Parmar, my friend and co-conspirator in creating a great life. We sat outside a Costa, plotted our next life enhancement strategies and watched the world go by. It is interesting people watching: the usual glum expressions were replaced with cheery smiles and even the occasional ‘hello’.

All because the sun is shining and it’s warm?

How often do we make ourselves to the be the hostage of circumstances we can’t control (like the weather). I remember being like this before I came across the tools I now teach others. My moods would be completely dependent on what was happening in my life in areas I had no control over. And yet I would worry, fret and drive myself crazy trying to change those very things that I had no control over!

Vinay reminded me of when he attended his first seminar with me and picking up a concept that has helped him change his life – the concept of Total Responsibility for all that occurs in your life. Now this doesn’t mean trying to control the things you can’t, but accepting them and then influencing the things you CAN control.

What we tend to do is to forget this and get caught up in doing things that make little or no difference.

How does this tie in to the weather? We let our moods be dictated by what the weather is doing, when actually we have total control over how we react to it. We can choose to be miserable or happy regardless of the weather. And choosing to be happy makes us more productive in all that we do.

Instead of wanting to control the weather outside you, learn to control the eco-system INSIDE of you – and you will never again be troubled by the weather outside. You might even smile and say ‘hello’ to me as you pass me on the pavement on a rainy day!

Go on then, let the sun out!

The Power of a Decision

Today, I was asked the question, ‘does it really work?’ in relation to a strategy I use in my business to attract the right kinds of clients for me.

This led me to think about achieving results.

We usually start out with the best of intentions when we ‘decide’ to do something. We make a decision, commit to it, and then begin to take action toward its accomplishment. This is usually when the fun start – the mind kicks in with its ‘yap yap yap’ dialogue of uncertainty and doubt, and we very quickly begin to doubt our decision.

The problem lies in two things:

1)      We rarely make a clear decision in the first place. The word ‘decide’ from its Latin root means to cut off all other possibilities. This means that we will not accept anything less than the thing we decide to have. In reality, we rarely do this – we are willing to settle for less. Or more likely, we are open to changing our minds and go back on the decision as soon as the going gets tough.

2)      We rarely commit to keep going until we achieve our outcome. We feel great when making a decision, but that feeling does not last. Eventually, when it has worn off, we don’t feel so great and our commitment, if there was any in the first place, start to wane. This is not commitment.

True commitment is doing the thing you said you would do, long after the mood you said it in has left you.

How often do you really commit to something and see it to its end?

To really achieve your big goals you must:

1)      Make a LASTING decision

2)      Commit to yourself and your abilities to accomplish your goal.

“An invincible determination can accomplish almost anything, and in this lies the great distinction between great men and little men.”

Dr. Thomas Fuller (1608-1661);

clergyman, writer

 

Go on then, make a decision.