Who loves you, baby?

February 13, and the world’s retail marketing machines are well into into the annual frenzy of selling Valentine’s Day. Millions of £$€ and just about any other currency will be spent. Hearts will be given, eaten (in the form of sweets!) and, of course, also broken.

What started as a fertility festival in Roman times has become a consumer spending spree for people, all desiring to show their love for that ‘special’ one in their life. There is nothing wrong in having love in your life. There is nothing wrong with demonstrating your love, in whatever way you choose to. It all depends on your motivation for wanting to do either.

In my seminars on Emotional Intelligence, I share with people how to find true love. Many have found it soon after, some even found their true loved one on the seminar! (see the video testimonial where my friend Elinor did just that – you can see it in her face!)

What all of them learned is that low level feelings/emotions – such as loneliness, feeling incomplete without a special love, jealousy, desire, longing, fear of being hurt, and a whole load more – only succeed in keeping it away from you. When you make a decision to change your feelings to higher ones of courage, love and peace with where you are now, people actually feel more attracted to be with you. Paradoxically, being okay and in love with where you are attracts that special someone into your life – as Rachel discovered recently:







What you sow, you reap.

Give love with desperate thoughts of it being returned, and all you will do is put blocks in the way to it being returned to you.
Give love with an open heart with no thoughts of it being returned, and it will come to you in abundance.

My message is simple: treat your Valentine with no thoughts of love being returned to you. You just might enjoy Valentine’s Day more than you’ve ever done!

If you want to learn what Rachel and Elinor did on my course, then the next one is in May. Come and find your true love.

Go on, have the courage to love and be loved


When will you have the courage to…..

We spend our life waiting for the right moment, the right opportunity, the right partner…

Somehow it always eludes us.

I spent decades getting the right qualifications, the right job, the right mindset, and a whole load more. I still didn’t find happiness or success., but I found a whole load of other problems.

The trouble was, I was looking for happiness and success everywhere it isn’t – in all the things that our wonderful media portray that makes people successful and happy.

I’m not saying that you can’t do anything. Mike Dooley sums it up in this quote:

‘By all means, seek to change the things you don’t like and to attract the things you do, just don’t put off your happiness for either or the other. By the way, there’s almost nothing you can’t change and you already have the courage you need to do so.
You do.’

Here’s a quote from someone who showed a lot of courage to overcome the hurdles to become the president of the USA

Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.
Barack Obama

He didn’t wait for the opportunity to show itself, he got on with what he could do.
It’s not a  surprise he rose all the way up to be president. You may not agree with the policies of his administration, but it’s hard to disagree with his courage

We are the change we seek. Once we can accept that truth (and, if we don’t, pretend it is) we begin to tap into our latent power – a power that is in all of us, that we have forgotten about and made wrong by society’s conditioning. And we can begin to make changes in our life that seemed impossible before then.

Come and learn how to tap into that courage that is latent in you, and have it on tap ALL the time. This is what people learn on my Emotional Power Live seminar. You can find more information and book at Emotional Power Live

But don’t take my word for it! Listen to someone who did that and what he achieved as a result:

Whatever you decide to do, do it now!

Go on then…..find out more here

Time is money

This last Saturday saw me meeting with my Emotional Mastery Goals Mastermind Group.

Each month we meet to discover and remove the block we have in place that stop us, or slow us down,  from achieving our big goals in life.

This month we began looking at core patterns that are ingrained in us at an early age, starting with our beliefs about time and money. To a lot of people time is money.

This has all sorts of implications around our relationship with both time and money. One big consequence of this is that with this belief, you fill all your time with activity to earn money – after all if you’re not doing, you’re not earning. Money doesn’t grow on trees, so you have to work for a living.

And these are just 4 beliefs I’ve just shared here; how many more do you have in place? Especially ones that conflict, where by living to one makes you unable to live to the other! So you end up having neither time or money, at least in abundance.

I wonder how much extra time and money the members of this Goals Mastermind will generate as they remove the conflicted beliefs and replace them with ones that will actually help achieve their big goals.

In the first month of this year’s mastermind, they collectively generated over £60,000 in extra wealth between  them (15 masterminders) – and they hadn’t even looked at the beliefs around time and money until last Saturday!

What beliefs do you have about time and money? How are they holding you back from having more of both of them?

Go on then. Change them and prosper.

Are you a medal winner or someone who takes part just to be counted?

2012-olympic-medals-all3As the London 2012 Olympics draws to an end, Team GB have won more Gold Medals than at any other Olympics for over 100 years.

There was great jubilation, and also the occasional disappointment, amongst all the athletes going for gold for Team GB. There were tears of happiness, of finally seeing a dream come true: and there were tears of disappointment, of seeing a dream shattered.

There were many reasons that the athletes had for competing. At the top of the tree, the medal winners:
On Thursday evening, there was Usain Bolt, achieving the double of successfully defending both his 100m and 200m victories from the Beijing 2008 Olympics. He did it, in his own words, to be a ‘legend’.
An hour before that, almost forgotten by the time of Usain Bolt’s triumph, was the great victory of David Rudisha. In the process of winning the Gold Medal, he also broke the 800m World Record and led EVERY other runner in that final to set either a personal best or a national record for the country they represented. It was described by many as the best 800m race ever run. Patrick Rudisha did it to make his father (an athlete in the 1968 Olympics), and Sebastian Coe (who had encouraged him in his endeavour) proud.
Two great athletes, two very different reasons for competing to win.

Then, at the other end of the scale were the athletes, who had no chance of winning a medal.
Wojdan Shaherkani  took part in the women’s Judo event, whilst her compatriot, Sarah Attar, took part in the women’s 800m race. Wojdan Shaherkani  lasted about a minute in her one and only bout in Judo, whilst Sarah Attar came last in her race. Neither stood a chance of winning a medal or competed to win, but just to take part – they were the first women ever allowed by Saudi Arabia to compete in the Olympics. They both endured (and continue to endure) severe criticism from many people within their own country just for taking part.

Who are the greater Olympians, the ‘winners’ or the ‘losers’. Both, for different reasons, all of which are valid. Why do you take part in the Olympics of life? Do you take part to become a legend, for pride, for the right to compete, or for another equally worthy reason?

I am not bound to win, but I am bound to be true.
I am not bound to succeed, but I am bound to live by the light that I have.
I must stand with anybody that stands right, and part with him when he goes wrong.

Abraham Lincoln, 16th U.S. President

Whatever your reason, you are worthy.

Go on, it’s never too late to win.