Life is like……

Well according to Forrest Gump – “Life is like a box of chocolates – you never know what you are going to get!”

However, I feel that life is like a giant game of snakes and ladders.  You roll the dice and you don’t know if you are going to be climbing a ladder up or hitting a snake and sliding back down again.

This is like emotions.  Some days you are on a real high – everything is going well.  The sun is shining, you are feeling positive and great and life is easy.  You are climbing high and going up in the world on the ladder with your work, your relationships and your health.

And then without warning, you slide back down.  Something happens and life hits you.  You slide back down and are in a slump and you don’t know why -things were going so great – why me, why now?

By having tools and techniques that are available through Emotional Intelligence training & coaching you can’t avoid these snakes and ladders, they are part of life’s lessons. But you CAN make the ladders taller and the snakes shorter. Now, does that interest you, or are you happy not knowing how far down you can slide?

I like to hedge my bets in my favour – call me risk averse, but I win more and gain bigger prizes!

When you can understand yourself and how you are programmed to react to situations you are able to roll the dice and make your way to the winning post of the game much more faster than leaving it to chance.

For further information check out my website and online programmes at

Stress Less To Success [21 Experts Share Their Secrets]

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Do you dream about doing work that is meaningful, that helps to make the world a better place…but you don’t know where to start?

Stress reduction is an issue I care about, which is why I’ve joined forces with Eleni Vardaki and another 20 leaders and success experts from all over the world to talk about all the things you can do to reduce your stress levels.

If you’re working hard towards achieving your study or career goals, and you want to learn about better ways of managing the stress, along the way, this series of interview on how to how to stress less is for you.  

I’m so excited for this Online Event, because some of the world’s leading experts in success and well-being are going to teach you things like:

  • The 5 Powerful Strategies to Maximize Your Exam Performance
  • The No. 1 Time Management Strategy That Will Help You Achieve More, In Less Time
  • The 15 Foods That Will Help You Focus More
  • A Behind-The-Scenes Sneak Peek of What it REALLY Takes To Start A Profitable Business, Right Out Of College (…yeah, it’s totally possible!)
  • A Simple Way To Reduce Your Stress In Less Than 2 Minutes, When You’re Going Through Performance Pressure. And much, much more.

So here’s the best part: this event is 100% FREE!

Because we want to make sure you get the help you need, to learn how you can better achieve your goals.


Plus, it’s virtual, so you can even watch it in your pjs (why not?).  The event starts on 3rd July and will finish on 13th July.  You will see me on 4th July!

The thing is, we live in a time when high levels of stress are talked of as fact of life. As inevitable.

As a badge of honour. As necessary for success. As evidence of ‘effort’. These are myths. Unhelpful, and untrue. Because you can be successful, and have a less stressful life. The question is – Do you WANT to learn, how? 😉

Now listen, if you want to turn your life around and find a better way to achieve success, register before midnight on 2nd July, because this interview series is only available for a limited time. Are you ready? What are you waiting for! 

So here’s the recap:

21 of the world’s leading success, health and wellness experts (including me!) are going to be spilling the beans on how to ace your exams, attract like-minded people, and set yourself up for a life that’s more than ordinary – a life where you’re pursuing your dreams, while learning how to take good care of yourself.

And you can watch it from the comfort of your own home without having to pay a dime.

So, what are you waiting for? Reserve your spot now by clicking on the registration link below:


Transform from a good to great leader – with emotional intelligence coaching

Organised, confident, enthusiastic, committed, consistent!

These are some of the traits needed to be a good leader.

But why be a good leader when you can be a great one?

There’s only one thing that separates the good from the great – and that’s emotional intelligence.

Managing your emotions

At its most basic, emotional intelligence is the ability to identify, understand and regulate your emotions and those of the people around you.

In practical terms, this means being aware that emotions drive your behaviour and impact others (positively and negatively) and learning how to manage those emotions, especially when you’re under pressure.

This is particularly relevant to business leaders, because as a leader, you set the emotional tone in your organisation.

The emotional state you demonstrate (consciously, or unconsciously) primes the behaviour of your employees.

Let me demonstrate.

Do you think you are good at hiding your feelings/emotions?

Have you ever asked someone how they feel and they answer they are fine; and yet, you have the distinct feeling they are not fine. How do you know that?

We know that animals can sense our feelings and are more likely to attack when we are in “Fear” than when we are feeling strong and in control. What people generally don’t know is humans are also good at sensing other’s feelings – they have just forgotten how to do it most of the time when it really matters.

So, if you can sense when others are lying about how they are, others can also sense when you are putting on an act! This has important repercussions for businesses.

If you’re positive and motivating, and I mean really that and not just pretending, your staff will be also begin to be motivated.

If you’re negative, it will bring your staff down and affect their productivity and level of engagement.

If you are a good leader, but think you are hiding your emotions / feelings, think again. Great leaders don’t need to hide their feelings – they can change how they feel. They know how emotions shape their behaviour and know how to change their emotions to elicit the best from those they lead.

Emotional intelligence coaching

The good news is you can improve the emotional climate of your organisation with the help of an emotional intelligence coach.

Having worked with many professional entrepreneurs, business owners and public organisations, I‘m very well placed to help you master your emotional intelligence and become the best leader you can be.


There are five basic components of emotional intelligence:

  • Self-awareness: Knowing what you are feeling at any given moment and understanding the impact it has on others
  • Self-regulation: Controlling or redirecting your emotions; anticipating consequences before acting on impulse
  • Motivation: Utilising emotional factors to achieve goals and persevere in the face of obstacles
  • Empathy: Being sensitive to the emotions and needs of others
  • Social skills: Managing relationships, inspiring others and eliciting the response you want from them.

The more that you as a leader, control these components, the more successful you will be in business.

Through emotional intelligence coaching, I can help you understand these elements and give you the tools to develop them – resulting in a happier workforce and a healthier bottom line.

Contact me

I’m convinced that mastering your emotional intelligence will be the most valuable personal and professional training you’ll ever undertake.

To start your journey, email me at or call me on 0121 270 6060

How emotional intelligence is helping athletes get gold (and how it can help you too!)

I’m sure that like me you enjoyed watching the recent Olympics and Paralympics on the TV.

Wasn’t it great to see Team GB do so well and come away with so many medals?

Telling words

Whilst watching I became very interested in some of the comments that the athletes made when they were interviewed.

Following their event, quite a few of them began to talk about how they were feeling. However, more than once, the TV presenter interviewing them instead moved the conversation on to ask them about their mindset.

One particular question was, “How did you cope with the pressure?”

And the athlete replied, “Well, I didn’t put any pressure on me. It was other people that wanted to put the pressure on me. I choose instead to focus on the event.”

Another athlete spoke about ‘being present in the moment’ and having the ability to not be distracted by other people.

The language they used was interesting and I believe that now, in addition to physio and coaching support, senior athletes are receiving emotional intelligence training.

So, what’s it all about?

Emotional intelligence for sport

Emotional intelligence is simply being aware that you are here, right now, in the present time.

Have you ever tried to go back in time or jump forward into the future? Of course you haven’t and that’s because time travel is simply not possible.

The past has happened and it cannot be changed. The future is something that may or may not happen – you simply can’t guarantee it.

So, whilst we can’t jump through time, one thing we can do is to get better at living right here, right now.

With me so far? Great.

The Olympic mindset

Let’s go back to our Olympians.

Quite a number of coaches work with their team members before the event and take them through a visualisation exercise.

Of course, the thing they’re envisaging and visualising is them achieving their time, beating their opponent or winning that gold medal.

This obviously helps them focus on achieving the thing they want.

Personally, I’d call this ‘building belief through visualisation’.

Choose to believe

We all have a choice between feeling good and feeling bad and, if we are able to make this choice, we will always choose the good over the bad. I know you may find it hard to believe we have a choice, especially when feeling particularly bad (I call this ‘feeling CRAP’!). I can, and often do, prove this when working with people on my events, that they have a choice in how to feel about a particular person or event.

It is therefore much better for an athlete to choose to feel good and to believe in winning – even if they don’t win.

Visualisation is just a tool an individual is using to get their mindset to a place where they can also feel good. Why is feeling good so important? Imagine the times you last felt CRAP. Did you do your best? Enough said…

Inspiration from others

Belief also relates to the process where one person’s success drives the successes of others.

If a sportsperson sees a fellow team member win a gold and then perhaps, a second team member wins a gold, they will then believe that they have so much more of a chance of doing this themselves.

Be here now

So it’s all part of the same thing. We have to be present in the here and now because the here and now is the only place we can actually do anything.

Focused thinking

Emotional and mental intelligence are therefore both important when it comes to achieving an Olympic win.

Being in the moment is central to this because if an athlete focuses on anything other than being in the moment, as soon as they do this, they will have dropped back into thinking about either what happened in the past (that time they had to pullout or failed to complete) or what may happen in the future (will I get a medal, will it be gold or silver, will my main competitor be faster than me at the end?).

In addition, if an athlete runs a race and all they think about is crossing the finish line first, their mind will only be on that one thing. Therefore they will not be focusing on each moment in the race, on how they are running at that time, where their fellow team members are, how many laps are left, when to make their move, where their main opponents are.

Each moment requires a different focus.

Rather than focusing just on that finish line, they must therefore focus 100% on each moment and respond accordingly.

So the visualisation thing is good, but being in the moment is the most important thing.

Amazing achievements

Our amazing Olympians are therefore wonderful examples of people who are able to focus on the moment and use emotional intelligence.

And when the difference between winning and losing may be a millisecond, they must do this to win.

It could help you too

Would you like to know how emotional intelligence can help you? I have a track record of helping professional business people do just this. Can you do with more success? Or maybe you are already successful and are working even harder to maintain your success than you did to achieve it?

If you would like be more of the person you want to be, do less to achieve your goals and achieve them even faster, then please give me a call and we can have a chat about how EQ may be relevant to your circumstances..

You don’t by the way, have to be an Olympian to benefit. You do need to have big dreams! Here’s my version of Faster, Higher, Stronger:

Be More, Do Less, Achieve More
Go on then…….

Let emotional intelligence take the C.R.A.P. out of your day!

Let me ask you a question: Have you ever had a crap day?

Of course you have. We’ve all had them, and we all react to them in different ways. For some of us, the crap days stay with us for a lot longer than for others.

Why is this?  Well, we are taught history, science and maths when we’re growing up but few of us are taught about emotional awareness – the ability to identify and deal with our emotions and the emotions of others. Do you remember a single lesson in emotional awareness?

These skills are equally, if not more, valuable to us in life but you’ll never learn them in a schoolroom.

People who exhibit emotional intelligence have the skills to read emotions, respond to the needs of others, manage conflict and stop emotions disrupting their lives.

Managing your emotions
Whether it’s a cringe-worthy job interview that you could have done better at or a misunderstanding between you and a colleague that’s resulted in an attack of paranoia and self-doubt; I guess we’ve all been in situations that we ‘could have’, ‘would have’ or  ‘should have’ handled better.

These ‘could have’, ‘would have’ or ‘should have’ are negative thoughts that alter your emotional state – resulting in feelings of guilt, shame, upset, fear, embarrassment and anger and get stuck in what I call ‘below-the-line’ states. Or we can experience ‘above-the-line’ states of Courage, Acceptance and Peace.

Let’s look at CRAP as an acronym:


It’s Resistance to the situation and your thoughts or feelings about the situation that put a CAP on your ability to handle the said situation. In short, take the R out of CRAP and you take the CAP off your ability to perform at your very best. This is what I have been successfully applying to my life and teaching the many clients I have worked with over the course of the last 18 years in business. So I have plenty of success stories to back up my claims.

Giving you the tools
Emotional Intelligence gives you the tools to take the ‘R’ out of C.R.A.P. and helps you focus your mind on ‘above-the-line’ states of courage, acceptance and peace to achieve your goals and outcomes with less effort.

Back to your situation.

The majority of us could have feelings of guilt, shame, upset, fear, embarrassment and anger following an experience like this and get stuck in ‘below-the-line’ states

These feelings are difficult to let go of unless we are taught HOW to let them go.  Emotional intelligence can help you let go of the Resistance to the situation, which, as I show on my courses, just wastes your energy – valuable energy that can be used to IMPROVE the situation. It helps you recognise what you’ve done, take ownership of your feelings, and then allow yourself to move on.

This ‘emotional mastery’ is the key. These people found their key to unlocking their true potential – see what they have to say:


Find out more
To learn how to do this for yourself, come to up to my three-day Emotional Mastery’ weekend from May 20th – 22nd 2016, where you’ll learn a range of powerful techniques to help you take control of and master your emotional state. GUARANTEED, or your money back.

To arrange a conversation with me to discuss how it can help you with your unique situation, simply email me on, or check out for further information.

You need to be in the highest state to achieve the best in life. Is this just another interesting article you’ll forget in a few minutes, or are you going to do something to learn how to be in that best state? Go on, do something NOW. Your life is waiting for you to turn up.